Have you ever heard the saying "The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything." this could not be more true.
Recently my mindset has completely improved, I have always had fuck tons of energy and been really bubbly but I was always a bit of a negative nelly too. Giving it the 'woe is me' routine every damn day must have drained the shit out of the people around me and it wasn't until I started to become irritated by negativity from other people that I realised the effect I was having on others. Don't get me wrong what others think of you is none of your business but if you find your irritating yourself with your own moaning, chances are your sucking the fun out of the party and you aren't helping yourself one bit.
It is perfectly acceptable to be sad from time to time and don't let anyone tell you different but just don't allow yourself to become consumed by negativity otherwise you will find that your life has become very miserable, just like I did.
I have been single for the longest period of time now since I was sixteen and I never bloody realised how important all this me time was for me. I spent so long in relationships and giving soooo much effort to people that didn't want at the time to give me anything in return. All that love I was giving to other people and yet I was giving nothing to myself. Relationships shouldn't be like that, they should make you feel loved and full of love too yet I came out of it all feeling empty. Not only was I missing that person but I was missing myself. I didn't know myself enough because I cared too much about learning about the person I was with. As Queen Carrie Bradshaw says "You have to fall in love with yourself first."
So here I am; months and months after my last relationship ended loving the hell out of myself and feeling much happier about myself and my life. I am now completely in touch with my emotions, if I'm having a bad day that's just fine because I know it's going to pass and I know I've survived worse things. I spend time doing things that fill me up and make me happy not things that impress other people.
The thing I have learnt the most in this whole revelation is you can't take anything for granted. You have to accept the things you can't change. I was working a crazy busy shift the other night and we were really short staffed and one of the waitresses said to me "How are you smiling like the cheshire cat right now?" and I said "We can't change this, we just have to deal with it, try your best and keep going." and that's exactly why I had a smile on my face. Yes, the shift was stressful but I wasn't allowing the stress to affect me and you know what? I didn't get a single complaint that night, nope it doesn't always go that way unfortunately but I was running round and getting as much as I could done and if things went wrong it was out of my control but the one thing that wasn't out of my control was my attitude. When you find yourself stressed, think will this situation matter to me in a years time? If it won't then don't stress about it, take a few deep breaths, get some fresh air, sip a coffee, dance it out, do whatever ya gotta do and then brush it off, put the smile back on your face and move on. Shit happens, things go wrong, life isn't meant to be easy but what does make everything a hell of a lot easier is radiating good vibes. The day you realise that some things just aren't worth wasting your energy on the sooner you can truly enjoy your life and be happy.
- If someone seems like a waste of time, they probably are, cut that off, it will only make you feel bad keeping them in your life
- Put yourself first- I mean this, have your me time, love yoself, post that picture you love even if your double chin is saying hi, don't hate on other people and don't allow others to destroy your inner peace
I know I'm rambling and I sound like a preachy parrot but trust me I have noticed a huge change in my attitude recently and I love it so I just wanted to use my little spot right here to spread the good vibes.
Thanks for reading you wonderful humans xxxxxxx
Recently my mindset has completely improved, I have always had fuck tons of energy and been really bubbly but I was always a bit of a negative nelly too. Giving it the 'woe is me' routine every damn day must have drained the shit out of the people around me and it wasn't until I started to become irritated by negativity from other people that I realised the effect I was having on others. Don't get me wrong what others think of you is none of your business but if you find your irritating yourself with your own moaning, chances are your sucking the fun out of the party and you aren't helping yourself one bit.
It is perfectly acceptable to be sad from time to time and don't let anyone tell you different but just don't allow yourself to become consumed by negativity otherwise you will find that your life has become very miserable, just like I did.
I have been single for the longest period of time now since I was sixteen and I never bloody realised how important all this me time was for me. I spent so long in relationships and giving soooo much effort to people that didn't want at the time to give me anything in return. All that love I was giving to other people and yet I was giving nothing to myself. Relationships shouldn't be like that, they should make you feel loved and full of love too yet I came out of it all feeling empty. Not only was I missing that person but I was missing myself. I didn't know myself enough because I cared too much about learning about the person I was with. As Queen Carrie Bradshaw says "You have to fall in love with yourself first."
So here I am; months and months after my last relationship ended loving the hell out of myself and feeling much happier about myself and my life. I am now completely in touch with my emotions, if I'm having a bad day that's just fine because I know it's going to pass and I know I've survived worse things. I spend time doing things that fill me up and make me happy not things that impress other people.
The thing I have learnt the most in this whole revelation is you can't take anything for granted. You have to accept the things you can't change. I was working a crazy busy shift the other night and we were really short staffed and one of the waitresses said to me "How are you smiling like the cheshire cat right now?" and I said "We can't change this, we just have to deal with it, try your best and keep going." and that's exactly why I had a smile on my face. Yes, the shift was stressful but I wasn't allowing the stress to affect me and you know what? I didn't get a single complaint that night, nope it doesn't always go that way unfortunately but I was running round and getting as much as I could done and if things went wrong it was out of my control but the one thing that wasn't out of my control was my attitude. When you find yourself stressed, think will this situation matter to me in a years time? If it won't then don't stress about it, take a few deep breaths, get some fresh air, sip a coffee, dance it out, do whatever ya gotta do and then brush it off, put the smile back on your face and move on. Shit happens, things go wrong, life isn't meant to be easy but what does make everything a hell of a lot easier is radiating good vibes. The day you realise that some things just aren't worth wasting your energy on the sooner you can truly enjoy your life and be happy.
- If someone seems like a waste of time, they probably are, cut that off, it will only make you feel bad keeping them in your life
- Put yourself first- I mean this, have your me time, love yoself, post that picture you love even if your double chin is saying hi, don't hate on other people and don't allow others to destroy your inner peace
I know I'm rambling and I sound like a preachy parrot but trust me I have noticed a huge change in my attitude recently and I love it so I just wanted to use my little spot right here to spread the good vibes.
Thanks for reading you wonderful humans xxxxxxx
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